Asking for a prenuptial agreement can be a sticky situation. Nobody wants to go into a marriage thinking that it will not last. This makes it awkward then to create a Massachusetts legal document that prepares for a divorce. However, having this type of agreement is an excellent idea to protect what you and your partner bring into the marriage.
The Huffington Post explains that proposing a prenuptial agreement does not have to be complicated. It is all dependent on how you prepare for the conversation and then how you present it. You can make it easy on yourself if you follow these three tips.
- Be honest
You should not sugar coat the idea or talk in circles when presenting it. You need to explain to your partner why you feel this agreement is necessary. Be direct and honest about your thoughts. Answer questions directly, too. Being direct can help avoid misunderstandings.
- Offer how it will help both of you
A prenuptial agreement is not just for the benefit of one person, even if only one of you bring substantial assets to the marriage. It is for both of you to protect yourselves in the event your marriage does not work out. You can include many clauses in such a document, so make sure your partner knows that you want this for his or her protection, too.
- Do not keep it a secret
Do not just spring this on your partner. Be open about the idea throughout your relationship. Make it known that if you decide to marry that you will want a prenuptial agreement. This will give you the chance to share your feelings and get a read on whether he or she is on board with the idea.
Many times, the reason why a discussion about a prenuptial agreement goes south is that the communication is not clear. Trying to sneak it in at the last minute brings up bad feelings and will upset your partner. So, make sure that you are honest, open and realistic when bringing this up.