By far the most common kind of custodial arrangement following a divorce is co-parenting. In this Arrangement, the children commonly live with both parents on a somewhat equal basis and both parents are involved with making legal decisions regarding the children. However, in certain circumstances, sole custody may also be an option where only one parent is legally in charge of the child and the child primarily lives with that parent. According to FindLaw, sole custody is very rarely granted in court, and should only be pursued in exceptional circumstances.
Studies have found that children are more likely to thrive if they are raised by both parents, even if those parents are divorced. This is why co-parenting is such a popular option in the modern family law courtroom. Keep in mind that the job of the court is to do what is in the child’s best interest, not necesssarily the parent’s. This means that while you may have a difficult relationship with your ex-spouse, it is important to put those differences aside in order to focus on raising the children in a manner that will benefit them the most. This is why sole custody he is so rarely granted.
However, there are certain circumstances where sole custody may be a better option. If one of the parents is found to be legally unfit to raise a child, the custody may be given to the other parent. Examples of being unfit for parenting involve drug or alcohol abuse, or a history of domestic violence.
However, if you simply dislike your ex-spouse, sole custody is likely not to be granted and it is better to not waste your time trying to obtain it.