If you and your spouse have decided to end your marriage, helping your children adjust to a new way of life and different family structure will be top priority.
Many divorcing parents opt for mediation over litigation, choosing to work together during this outside-of-court process to create their parenting plan.
Preparing plan points
As you approach mediation and the parenting plan you and the other parent will develop, putting your thoughts down on paper will keep you focused. The plan will be an outline of important details concerning the way the two of you will raise your children in a post-divorce world. You have specific ideas about that and committing your thoughts to paper will help you remember every point you want to make during mediation.
Creating a comprehensive document
Every parenting plan is unique, but there are main points to address:
– Custody schedule and details
– Plan for transitioning between homes
– Managing vacation time, holidays and special events
– Access to school and medical records
– Parental decision-making responsibilities
– Communication details
Open communication between you and your soon-to-be-ex is key to working out a successful parenting plan. In fact, when you are comfortable with the communication aspect, you will continue using it in working with each other to raise your children once the divorce is final.
A trained mediator will be on hand to provide guidance as you and your spouse collaborate to develop a parenting plan that will work for everyone in the family. To do so in an atmosphere that is considerably more relaxed and respectful than litigation will enable you to take control of your co-parenting responsibilities and devise a successful plan that ensures the best interests of your children.