Divorce can take a massive emotional toll on all those involved. Choosing mediation instead of litigation is one way of lowering emotional stress. By choosing to negotiate a solution rather than fight over one, it puts a more positive and less conflictive spin on things.
If you have children, mediation could be especially advantageous. No child wants to see their parents taking each other to court.
Preparation is key to a successful mediation meeting
Your divorce mediation meeting could be the most important meeting of your life. You need to set time aside to prepare practically and emotionally. Here are some steps to ensure you are in the right frame of mind for the meeting:
- Get the rest you need: A lot is going on during a divorce. You will be running around finding paperwork and speaking to attorneys. You might be packing up your things or moving between your home and temporary accommodation. On top of that, you need to carry-on with everything else, such as holding down a job and caring for your children. Consider asking friends or family for help to give you time to prepare. Try to get an early night the night before the meeting.
- Focus on the future, not the past: Bringing up old wounds during the meeting will not benefit anyone. Reacting if your partner mentions something will not help either. Think about what triggers arguments between you and resolve to avoid them.
- Focus on an agreement: For divorce mediation to work, both you and your partner will need to make concessions. Expecting to get everything your way will lead to failure.
Your attorney can help you set realistic expectations for the meeting. They will be there by your side to guide you. Tell them any concerns you have about the meeting. They are there to help.