Divorce can easily bring out the worst in you and your ex. When the divorce filing is a shock or the result of a betrayal like adultery, divorce proceedings can often become very contentious. Emotions run high, and people act in ways that they usually would not.
Typically, cooperating with your ex for an uncontested divorce requires that the two of you talk to each other. You need to work out ways to divide your property and possibly share custody of your children. The only way to avoid divorce litigation is to resolve the issues yourself outside of court.
If you can’t stand to be in the same room as your spouse, does that mean that mediation is off the table and that litigation is your only option?
You may be candidates for shuttle mediation
Mediation is most effective when both parties communicate directly with one another, but the mediator can serve a crucial role as an intermediary in high-conflict divorces. In a shuttle mediation session, the divorcing spouses won’t be in the same room to discuss matters.
Instead, they are in separate rooms or maybe even separate buildings, and the mediator goes back and forth between the parties to facilitate their negotiations. Shuttle mediation may take longer and might cost more than traditional mediation. However, it will likely still be a more affordable solution than traditional litigation. You also have the benefit of retaining control over the terms that you set for custody and property division.
Learning more about the different kinds of mediation available in a divorce might help you pursue a lower conflict solution to the dissolution of your marriage.